outline of problem and solution

Interaction is unhealthy for me and an outline of solution will combine—

Inner resolution,

Agreement on healthy, respectful, full relations,

Limits set now (more on solution, below).

definition of problem

Intrusion.

Presumption of privilege and capacity for judgment. Ego over knowledge—judgmentalism.

It’s a plain fact that (a) he’s a deeply negative and persistently influence (regardless of ‘cause’ and over and above negativism) (b) the negative outweighs the positive. It’s become very difficult to deal with this because (i) he’s persistently so (ii) is in denial about it and, particularly, (iii) goes into attack rather than resolution mode (probably because of the fragile ego and a history of denial as defense).

more on solution

Buddha—wait, meditate to allow pain > insight > equilibrium > healing.

Privacy—I will not share areas of sensitivity—my plans, especially where to live, seeking work, wilderness trips, seeking work, the way of being.

Limit calls—20 min.

Limit or eliminate calls for a period of time, if resolution is not achieved. Explanation—avoiding negativity, for which I have paid a huge amount of pain over the years; no further explanation because I have been met with avoidance, excuses, denial, and anger, even though his negativity has been repeated over and over and there is no sign that it will ever end because it is an aspect of his personality,

Wilderness trips—inform after trips, not before.

Further details.