Therapy

Anil Mitra January 1, 2020—August 24, 2020

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Aim

The means

The way

My person

Sangha

Blocks

Joint

External

Internal

Resolutions

Begin with myself

Others

An important issue

Understanding and communication

Real communication on common issues leads to understanding

Real sharing on personal issues leads to quality relationships, self-understanding, and real problem definition and resolution

 

Therapy

 

Aim

Living well in the present as the way to inspired and shared discovery and realization of the ultimate

The means

The way

Shared discovery and realization of the ultimate

My person

Recognizing (i) strengths their use (ii) blocks and their overcoming

Sangha

Publishing, advertising the way; community; enlisting persons according to their inclination and potential

Blocks

Joint

Understanding and communication

External

Others—expecting sangha from a small fixed set of persons

Also see internal blocks

Internal

My attitude—(i) inadequate resolve (ii) that others affect my attitude as if my interpretation of their view of me inhabits my mind

Fear—meditate to know the fears, the ground of my fear, and to not avoid but live with them—so as to (i) be at ease with them, (ii) so far as feasible, defuse them, (iii) but not to avoid accomplishment

Need to shift focus from universal understanding to heart, action, ritual, reinforcement, and sharing

Not enough attention to my physical and physiological condition—strength, endurance, changing chemical balance, medication

Resolutions

From the blocks the first focus must be myself.

Begin with myself

For resolve—(i) meditate on discipline needed (ii) shift focus toward heart, action, ritual, reinforcement, and sharing (iii) Focus, refocus in the moment and the day—reflect, meditate, act, exercise—anxiety the universe coaxing me to realization

In interaction (i) isolation from distracting others—physical and social, real and virtual (ii) designed interaction, less talk

Others

Others are what they are; what I feel as negating of myself, is what they are—their limit relative to me and the aim of the way; seek and create informal and institutional sangha

Limit visits—care in local visits, one month notice for external visits

An important issue

The issue—Mr. Singh’s history of negativity in attitude and judgment, often angry, but then ignoring written communication, minimizing – denying – re-writing narrative in verbal communication

The situation—there is improvement but the problem remains and retards true communication regarding real values

The resolution—see the points above; I might bring it up again if it continues and will then say I will talk of it only if willing to listen to the whole history, briefly; otherwise seek isolation from negativity

Understanding and communication

Real communication on common issues leads to understanding

Communication on common issues is effective when individuals are allowed extended talking with no interruption except encouragement and requests for clarification.

Real sharing on personal issues leads to quality relationships, self-understanding, and real problem definition and resolution

The first aim of sharing is sharing.

To listen is usually the most effective encouragement of understanding and, if there is a problem, of its resolution.

To give advice without extended listening or request (i) assumes problematicity and a problem (ii) is presumptive and negating the sharer while promoting the listener’s false ego (iii) rarely appreciates the multi-dimensionality of situations (iv) cuts short communication, is worse than no advice, and negates the prime function of sharing as therapeutic and problem solving in itself (since it enables self-reflection on the part of the sharer) (v) communicates problematicity and negativity subliminally.